
2.23.2010
2.06.2010
Find your soulmate :)
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Tienes el look. Tienes la confianza. Eres elegante y divertido, pero no logras conseguir una cita. ¿Por qué? Probablemente porque estás esperando a que el amor te encuentre. El viejo dicho de: “Debes estar ahí y luchar para ganarlo” es totalmente cierto.
“Generalmente preferimos ser encontrados a querer encontrar”, explica Juan Townsend, el autor de Dios encontrará la manera y Amando a la gente: cómo amar y ser amado. “Esto implica mayor riesgo, pero una vez que nos sentimos cómodos, con cómo aprender a tomar la iniciativa, cómo presentarse, y cómo estar disponibles para la gente que nos atrae, entendemos que el riesgo no es tan escalofriante como pensábamos.”
Es hora de cambiar tu modo de pensar y de comenzar a tomar un papel más dinámico en tu búsqueda para encontrar al amor que tanto deseas. Así es como debes comenzar:
Juega el juego
“Muchos solteros son demasiado impacientes como para adentrarse en una relación formal,” explica Kathy Stafford, autora de El remordimiento en una relación. “Si te limitas a una sola persona, después de haber tenido solamente un par de citas, estarás perdiendo muchas oportunidades para encontrar a alguien que pudiera ser mejor para ti.”
Lo que debes hacer: si la oportunidad se presenta para tener varias citas con diferentes personas a la vez, hazlo hasta que una de ellas parezca ser la indicada. ¡No estamos diciendo que les hagas creer a tus citas que sólo las ves exclusivamente a ellas, no hay ninguna necesidad de engañar a nadie! Si te lo preguntan, sé honesto, y diles que por el momento estás gozando de tus días de citas y de conocer a gente nueva.
Afróntalo
En vez de seguir guardándote esos sentimientos negativos sobre tu ex, ¡afróntalos! “Reajusta tu sistema nervioso y daté el tiempo que necesites para permanecer fuera de tu pasado”, dice Fred Luskin, autor de Perdonar por amor: el ingrediente faltante para una relación sana y duradera.
Lo que debes hacer: toma dos profundos y lentos respiros, y después imagina algo en tu vida que sea amoroso y seguro. La idea es que logres reprogramarte para que puedas enfocarte en lo que es bueno en tu presente, y no en lo que te lastimó en el pasado. Así podrás sentirte mejor, más animado, y podrás salir con más confianza.
Conéctate, ponte en línea
“La gente piensa que siempre está preparada para conocer a alguien especial; es decir, como cuando te encuentras con alguien en el supermercado y tu mejor amigo te arregla una cita, o cuando la persona que te interesa se sienta en la misma banca que tú en la iglesia”, comenta Sally Landau, autora deMejorando tus citas: la guía para citas exitosas de la mujer. “¡Anímate!, hasta el hombre más simpático está en línea ahora.”
Lo que debes hacer completa tu perfil y comienza a interactuar. Encontrarás gente con perfiles compatibles al tuyo, personas a quienes jamás hubieras conocido de otra forma. ¡Anímate! Envíales un guiño o un correo. Todos sabemos de alguien que ha conocido a su amor en línea.
Cambia tu rutina
No encontrarás gente nueva si haces lo mismo de siempre. “Ir a nuevos lugares e intentar nuevas cosas es más difícil de lo que parece, mejor da pasos cortos”, dice Abril Masini, autora de Ten citas extraordinarias. Haz un esfuerzo para cambiar tu rutina. ¿Aún no has encontrado a alguien interesante en tus lugares preferidos? ¡Entonces es hora de intentar algo nuevo!
Lo que debes hacer: comienza con algo fácil, como almorzar solo en un restaurante, y ve qué sucede. Desarrolla tus capacidades para charlar, independientemente de si ves o no a la persona con quien hablas como a un/a nuevo/a prospecto. Esto es un paso importante para sentirte seguro y poder ser más social. Ya verás cómo esto te va a recompensar a largo plazo.
Ten tu mente abierta
“Uno de los errores más comunes que cometen las personas mientras tienen citas, es hacer juicios rápidos y no darle una oportunidad a una buena persona”, comenta Amy Schoen, consejera de vida y experta en citas, de Washington, D.C. “Asumimos cosas que pueden no ser verdades.”
Lo que debes hacer: Descifra lo que realmente necesitas en una relación para ser feliz. Después, reconoce las buenas cualidades de tu prospecto y compáralas con lo que realmente necesitas. Haz una lista de lo que realmente importa, y no te estreses por los demás detalles. ¿Qué pasa si la persona perfecta para ti es 5 ó 10 años mayor de lo imaginabas? ¿Esto sería un factor importante para ti? Pregúntate en qué puedes ceder un poco y en qué no, y ve si existen nuevas posibilidades.
Empleando cualquiera de estas estrategias te ayudará a tomar un papel más activo en tu vida amorosa y a conseguir la atención del cupido. Si aún necesitas un poco más de “seguridad”, busca la ayuda de alguien más poderoso. No hay nada de malo en pedirle a Dios que te ayude a desempeñar un papel más estratégico para poder encontrar al amor que siempre has querido.
“Recuerda que Dios no sólo apoya al amor, él es amor. Lee 1 Juan 4:16 en la Biblia”, comenta Townsend. “Él te diseñó para que seas amado por él y por otras personas. Pídele ayuda y pídele que sea tu guía. Al mismo tiempo pon de tu parte y sé una persona madura y disponible para los demás.”
Notas para recordar:
- ¡Anímate! - envíales un guiño o un correo. Todos sabemos de alguien que ha conocido a su bombón en-línea.
- No hay nada de malo en pedirle a dios que te ayude a desempeñar un papel más estratégico para poder encontrar al amor que siempre has querido.
De la rama cortaba la flor~

Estaba la paloma blanca
sentada en un verde limón
con el pico cortaba la rama
de la rama cortaba la flor
¡ Ay , ay , ay ! ¿ Cuándo veré a mi amor ?
Me arrodillo a los pies de mi amante ,
me levanto constante , constante .
¡ Dame una mano ! ¡Dame la otra !
¡ Dame un besito sobre mi boca !
daré la vuelta entera ,
haciendo un pasito atrás ,
haré una reverencia .
porque me da vergüenza ,
pero si , pero si , pero si ,
porque me gusta así .
2.04.2010
100 things guys should learn about girls :)
2. We don't like talking dirty as much as you like hearing it .
3. We aren't as open about what we do in private as you are so don't ask
4. Don't ask a girl about her weight , she'll freak out.
5. Beware of every single male relative and all guy friends . Any of them would kick your butt if you hurt her .
6. Don't be afraid to touch them if you want to . If they're going out with you in the first place , it's because they like being in your arms .
8. Girls always talk about guys , like , ALWAYS . So don't even think about cheating , cuz we will find out .
9. We don't like being called sexy or hot . Calling us beautiful will always score you more points .
10. PMS : it really does make us feel like shit , so don't be grossed out by it because then it just makes us feel worse about ourselves .
11. We want to be with you . It doesn't matter where , it doesn't matter when , we just want to be with you .
12. If you kiss us in front of your friends , jackpot (: .
13. If we slap you , you deserved it bitch .
14. We don't mind paying for half of everything , but it makes you look like an asshole to everyone else .
15. A girl should always get three things from her boyfriend during the period of the relationship : a stuffed animal ; a sweatshirt of his ; a ring or a necklace , no matter how serious the relationship is .
16. If a guy is bothering us and we tell you . It's not because were trying to piss you off , it's because were scared and want you to protect us .
17. When she's texts you late at night , it's because she can't get you out of her head .
18. We're very jealous , so if your talking to your girl friend ( friend that is a girl) , pull your actual girlfriend closer to you , to make her feel more important .
19. When she's mad at you, kiss her .
20. When she's not mad at you, kiss her .
21. When she's upse t, kiss her . ( do you see a pattern ? )
22. DO NOT flirt with our friends or relatives , even jokingly . It pisses us off.
23. Guys that smell good = hot .
24. Okay , seriously , NOT EVER GIRL IS GOING TO BE A SIZE 3 so learn to deal with that , and look for something more then a girl that can pull of a bikini , because very few can .
25. When she's upset and she puts her head on your shoulder , she wants you to put your arm around he rand tell her everthing is gonna be okay .
26. When a girl bites her lip , she wants you to kiss her .
27. Don't beat around the bush . If you want to know something , just ask us . If we dont tell you , then we don't want you to know . Point blank .
28. When she asks you what she should wear , it's because she want you to think about her looking cute .
29. Girls like wearing sweats more then tight jeans and little tees so don't even judge a girl by what she wears to school .
30. Cute love letters , flowers in her locker , and surprise hugs will always score you major points .
31. No matter how much of a bitch she may be , you HAVE to be nice to the best friend(s) because they are going to know your relationship inside and out .
32. If you introduce us to your friends and your going out , you damn better call us your girlfriend or we will move on .
33. When we complain about something hurting , we really mean touch me here .
34. Girls love when you play with their hair and touch their face . It most definetly will make a girl blush and smile .
35. It's hard for us to trust people , but once we trust you , we honestly and truly trust you .
36. If you don't think the relationship is going anywhere , TELL US don't go and tell your friends and then break up with us . It will seriously scar us for the rest of our lives .
37. Girls like being picked up and carried around , but BE CAREFUL . We're fragile .(:
38. Girls love a guy that can make them laugh .
39. Ex girlfriends piss us off . So if you're not sure if your over them or not , don't even bother with us .
40. Girls love it when guys comment on our eyes. It shows that your looking at us , not our boobs .
41. Don't tell us that you understand when you don't .
42. When we're mad at you , we're freaking mad , so let us cool off before you say yor sorry .
43. We always dream about being kissed in the rain
44. Once you tell a girl that you can play the guitar or you can sing , she will wait for the day when you preform for her and she will fall for you (:
45. Sesitivity is a good thing , but don't make us be the man in the relationship . We want someone that's gonna protect us , not someone that we're gonna have to comfort everynight , we have enough insecurities of our own .
46. Girls like guys that are spontanious . Like , if you like a girl , walk up to her and be like "wow you're gorgous can i have your number ?" , seriously it makes our day (:
47. If a girl really trusts you , she will tell you everything thats bothering her , so listen don't just tune out and ignore us , it's a major thing if we tell you that stuff .
48. Seriously , we hate when you play your xBox more then you talk to us . If you love that thing so much , date it not me .
49. When a girl asks you to call her , its because she wants to fall asleep to your voice
50. If we're dating , there always has to be tension . Sometime we're just gonna pick a fight with you because everything can't always be perfect , so don't take it to heart .
51. Guys , we know your competitive, but let us win every once in a while, otherwise we're gonna think yoru cocky and that right there is a major turn off.
52. Girls like playing little cute games like 20 questions or what if
53. We really don't care as much about what a guy looks like as much as yo guys care about how a girl looks . Personality is number 1 .
54. All a girl usually looks for in a guy ( physically) is a nice smile and honest eyes .
55. Girls lke videogames too , so don't always assume we're cute little mall girls
56. Some girls like sports too , and if you me (GIANTS FAN) and you watch a football game , she's gonna root for her team , sorry baby .
57. We loooove being told that you were thinking about us all day
58. If a girl constantly runs her fingers through her hair , she's doing it to get your attention , some kind of sexual hintt that she likes you (:
59. We don't like when you're texting when your with us , unless you're texting the guy next to you asking for tups , cuz we do the same thing (:
60. Being nice and cute will always make a girl talk about you . Always .
61. Don't ever lie to us and then say "oh it was a test" . No , that was the end of our relationship .- BEEP-
62. Don't EVER text us saying "hey baby whats up?" and then saying "oh sorry wrong text" . believe me , it has happened .
63. A girl will spend hours on her appearance , so always compliment her on it .
64. A girl really only wants to make you happy.
65. When a girl says , should i dye my hair or should i change my _ insert body part here_ the answer is ALWAYS "baby , your perfect the way you are"
66. In my opinion , girl will only ask a guys advice if she really trusts him .
67. There is no such thing as a shy girl after the age of 16 . After that , all girls are acting .
68. The minute a girl decides to be with you , she's already decided that anytime you need it , she'll sacrifice anything necessary to get it to you . Anything , anytime , anywhere .
69. Always call her when you say you will , it may not seem like it , but it does hurt her and makes her think you don’t care so call even if you can only talk for a minute . Girls don’t necessarily have to have hour long conversations every night but it's nice for us to hear your voice even for a quick "hello" .
70. If your listening to music , let her listen too .
71. If you DON'T sleep with us , DON'T tell your friends you did
72. If you DID sleep with us , DON'T tell your friends you did .
73. She loves when you play with her hands
74. Kissing her on the stoumach will always make her smile
75. Whisper "iloveyou" in her ear and she will be tured on . BUT DON'T SAY IT UNLESS YOU MEAN IT !!!
76. When we come home from a date with you , it's always adorible when you text us three seconds after we get home saying " i miss you"
77. Okay , you knew it was coming . Memorize our birthdays and call us at 12:00 . It makes a world of difference.
78. DON'T EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER HIT , PUSH , SHOVE ,SLAP , OR HURT A GIRL IN ANY WAY .
79. Don't be late , it hurts us a lot .
80. When you say your gonna do something , do it damnitt .
81. We think about you all the time .
82. If you're sitting next to us in class and we're working on something , it's cute to get a note saying " hi baby (:" and it will make us smile .
83. Girls don't always want to hang out with girls . Just because we have guy friends does not mean that we want to be with them . We probably already had the chance and didn't take it
84. Don't expect us to make the same mistakes your ex did . If we do , it is not because there is some huge conspiracy against you . Maybe you're making a mistake , not us . Don't compare our mistakes to hers
85. We know you don't care about what happened in our day , but listen . It hurts us a lot when you don't pay attention .
86. We don't like to be nagged about where we are going or what we are doing either , but we usually hear you out .
87. We're emotional and act in mysterious ways , but you are pushing a huge button when you call us crazy.
88. Girls will stare at their phone until we get a call or text from you .
89. When we're with you , we will always try to sit / stand next to you , just hopping for the chance to touch you in even the smallest possible way.
90. Not all girls that are dancers/cheerleaders are whores , so don't assume just cuz that's our sport that we're goign to live up to the sterotype that goes for any co corricular activity.
91. Girls are suckers for little animals , so if you have a dog , she will most likely go "awwww :)" cuz it proves to us you actually have a sensitive side . Don't ask me how , it just does.
92. We're not trying to betray you when we ask your guy friends advice on our relationship with you . They know you best , and we're probably only saying good things about you anyway
93. When we go out , we don't always want to go see a movie . Change it up let's do something exciting (:
94. Poetry is always a plusss(:
95. Girls always jump to conclusions , so don't act innocent unless you really are . And if your not you better have a good conclusion or were gonna assume the worst
96. Don't make bets about us ; we always find out.
97. Most girls are ticklish , it's cute when guys tickle us
98. No girl just wants to be your "friend with benefits".
99. It's sexy when you grab our butts when you make out with us (:
100. If you are thinking about someone while reading this, go tell them. Noww stupid ! (: